Dating at 29

From age 23 to 29 you grow a lot. You learn about yourself and what you want in life. Your values towards dating and relationships also change dramatically.
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I know we all know people who met online. I know we all know people who love to tell us that they know people who met online. Everybody meets online now, right? So what does that say for the pride of us still hunting, still endlessly searching, what are we?

Just keep trying. No matter what happens, no matter if nothing happens, just keep trying. For a decade.

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That makes 27 million people on this dating app who did not meet their partner on their first goddamned date. You want to tell me a success story? Yes, people meet online, but fuck the odds of it. The invested effort of heterosexual single women looking for men to spend time with online is not met with a proportional return, not by a goddamned mile, and this disparity does not exist elsewhere. Want to get in better shape, feel more fit? Want a better job, better salary?

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Clean the motherfucker. Dating a younger woman is charged with meaning for them; it's one obvious way of continuing to feel youthful. But these older fellas are also more likely than younger men to be nonplussed by their girlfriends' success, which they compare grimly to their own real or perceived shortcomings.

Nicole points out that when she first started dating older men, she was a poor college student.

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But as she grew into her own career, she soon found that those same older men no longer were necessarily more successful than she was. Men a few years older than me can't impress me with their money or their experience, because I've got as much of both as they do. And that seems to throw a lot of them off. As Megan, Nicole, and others remarked, men in their 20s and early 30s seem both less stressed and less intimidated by women's success than their slightly older counterparts. These younger guys are not only less likely to feel that they're running out of time, they're not nearly as troubled by women who are often better educated and better paid than they are.

Many other women I heard from seem to agree. But there's more to the appeal of younger guys than greater egalitarianism alone.

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Many of the women I interviewed noted that at this point in their lives, they found slightly younger dudes to be far more sexually attractive. As my interviewees made clear, the enduring myths that women aren't particularly visual — and that most women find grey hair and wrinkles to be turn-ons -— are just that, myths. While there are a few younger women who really are strongly attracted to older guys, the sexiness of the ageing male body is more than a little oversold in popular culture. Not a lot of 30 year-olds are as hot as Ryan Gosling- — but far fewer something men look anything like Brad Pitt.

Less likely to be controlling. More secure and self-confident.

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More comfortable with powerful women. Better listeners. Your twenties about discovering who you are as an adult. After you learn to really value your worth, you know what you deserve. No one deserves someone who is just going to mess with your head all the time. Someone who is going to see all the wonderful things everyone else in your life sees about you.

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This is something you will learn. I had all the time in world to find someone special that I would want to spend my life with. As you start pushing thirty that mentality changes. Right is still out there. I remember when I would come home from a date, sit down with my friends and analyze everything to see what it all meant.

Everything had to mean something then. Now I just live in the moment and take everything that happens at face value.

If I feel it went well then that is all I care about. Who cares? Dating is so much more enjoyable when you stop analyzing it all. Click To Tweet. At 23 playing games in the dating world is standard. There is an unwritten set of rules we all seem to play by. But you know what think of those rules now; they are complete bullshit. If you like someone just go with it and stop thinking about the rules. If you both like each other it will all work out the way it is supposed to — with or without playing the game.

What do you think? Lauren graduated from Hofstra University with a bachelor's degree in communications and a minor in psychology. She enjoys spinning, crafting, and Saints football.